Think back to the last time you moved—the packing and unpacking, the seemingly endless search for the right place, the paperwork, the financing. Moving is one of the biggest and most complex decisions we make in our lives.

Now, consider the same experience for an aging loved one. Moving from a longtime home carries an additional emotional toll. Many families struggle with the same questions: When is it time for an aging loved one to move? And how do we begin the conversation?

When Is It Time to Move?

The decision to move—whether to a smaller home, a condo, or an assisted living community—is unique to each individual and family. Some may still thrive in their longtime homes, while others may find a change necessary due to health concerns or mobility challenges.

It may be time to start the conversation if you notice the following signs in your loved one:

• Difficulty keeping up with housework
• Struggles with grocery shopping or other errands
• Unpaid or late bills
• Falls or frequent close calls
• Noticeable memory lapses
• Declining personal hygiene
• Poor eating habits or significant weight loss

How to Talk to Your Loved One About Moving

Recognizing the need for a move is one thing—convincing your loved one is another. While some older adults acknowledge their limitations, many are determined to stay in their homes, fearing a loss of independence.

Moving is stressful at any stage of life, and for seniors, it can feel overwhelming. That’s why it’s important to approach the topic with patience and sensitivity. It’s not about a single conversation but rather an ongoing dialogue. Here are a few ways to begin:

1. Choose the Right Moment – While a health scare or fall might highlight the need for change, it’s often best to wait until emotions settle. If there’s no immediate danger, allow time for your loved one to process before discussing a move.
2. Start Early – The conversation should happen before an emergency forces a decision. If you notice subtle changes in their health or daily routine, bring up the topic to gauge their mindset and preferences.
3. Frame It as What’s Best for Them – Even if caregiving is taking a toll on your own life, avoid making the conversation about you. Instead, focus on their safety, comfort, and quality of life in a more suitable living arrangement.
4. Listen with Empathy – Your loved one may have decades of memories in their home, making the thought of leaving overwhelming. Give them space to express their emotions, reminisce, and feel in control of the decision.
5. Visit Potential Homes or Communities – Talking about moving in theory is different from experiencing it firsthand. Touring apartments, condos, or assisted living communities can help your loved one visualize their options. Even if they don’t make an immediate decision, seeing what’s available may help ease their concerns.

Life at McKay Creek Assisted Living

At McKay Creek Assisted Living, we understand the challenges families face when considering a move. Our approach is rooted in empathy and understanding, helping families navigate this transition with care.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to senior living. Our team takes the time to listen, understand individual needs, and determine if our community can provide the support and services your loved one requires.

For more information about life at McKay Creek Assisted Living, visit our website at mckaycreekal.com or call us at (541) 612-8213 to schedule a tour.